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Introduction: Proverbs 31:11 Bible Study

Welcome, to the bible study series Know the Bible: Proverbs 31:11. I am glad you are meeting me AT FORESTS EDGE, where women can study the word of God together and encourage one another while we walk out our faith, embrace womanhood, and live fearlessly.

In this study of Proverbs 31:11, we will look at the eleventh verse in context. I have broken the chapter up into mini-studies so that busy women like myself can take in the information in just a few minutes each day. 

If you have more time then feel free to continue to the next section whenever you are ready.

This study is perfect for a personal bible study or a women’s small group.

New here? The Proverbs 31 overview sets the stage for the context of the chapter, otherwise, let’s jump right into Proverbs 31:11!

Proverbs 31:11

“The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.”

Proverbs 31:11 NKJV

Proverbs 31:11 Strong’s Definition:

Heart- (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance to the Bible H3820)לֵב lêb, labe; a form of H3824; the heart; also used (figuratively) very widely for the feelings, the will and even the intellect; likewise for the centre of anything:—care for, comfortably, consent, × considered, courag(-eous), friend(-ly), ((broken-), (hard-), (merry-), (stiff-), (stout-), double) heart(-ed), × heed, × I, kindly, midst, mind(-ed), × regard(-ed), × themselves, × unawares, understanding, × well, willingly, wisdom.

Trust- (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance to the Bible H982) בָּטַח bâṭach, baw-takh’; a primitive root; properly, to hie for refuge (but not so precipitately as H2620); figuratively, to trust, be confident or sure:—be bold (confident, secure, sure), careless (one, woman), put confidence, (make to) hope, (put, make to) trust.

Gain- (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance to the Bible H7998) שָׁלָל shâlâl, shaw-lawl’; from H7997; booty:—prey, spoil.

Webster’s 1828 Dictionary Definition of Proverbs 31:11:

HEART, noun [Latin cor, cordis, and allied to Eng.core, or named from motion, pulsation.]

4. The seat of the affections and passions, as of love, joy, grief, enmity, courage, pleasure etc.

5. By a metonymy, heart is used for an affection or passion, and particularly for love.

The king’s heart was towards Absalom. 2 Samuel 14:1.

6. The seat of the understanding; as an understanding heart

We read of men wise in heart and slow of heart

7. The seat of the will; hence, secret purposes, intentions or designs. There are many devices in a man’s heart The heart of kings is unsearchable. The Lord tries and searches the heart David had it in his heart to build a house of rest for the ark.

Sometimes heart is used for the will, or determined purpose.

The heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Ecclesiastes 8:11.

8. Person; character; used with respect to courage or kindess.

Cheerly, my hearts.

9. Courage; spirit; as, to take heart; to give heart; to recover heart

10. Secret thoughts; recesses of the mind.

TRUST, noun

1. Confidence; a reliance or resting of the mind on the integrity, veracity, justice, friendship or other sound principle of another person.

He that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe. Proverbs 29:25.

2. He or that which is the ground of confidence.

O Lord God, thou art my trust from my youth. Psalms 71:1.

GAIN, verb transitive [Heb. to gain to possess.]

1. To obtain by industry or the employment of capital; to get as profit or advantage; to acquire. Any industrious person may gain a good living in America; but it is less difficult to gain property, than it is to use it with prudence. Money at interest may gain five, six, or seven per cent.

What is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Matthew 16:26.

2. To win; to obtain by superiority or success; as, to gain a battle or a victory; to gain a prize; to gain a cause in law.

3. To obtain; to acquire; to procure; to receive; as, to gain favor; to gain reputation.

For fame with toil we gain but lose with ease.

4. To obtain an increase of anything; as, to gain time.

5. To obtain or receive anything, good or bad; as, to gain harm and loss. Acts 27:21.

BOOT’Y, noun

1. Spoil taken from an enemy in war; plunder; pillage.

Summary of Proverbs 31:11

The husband of the Proverbs 31 woman is now brought to the forefront. Verse eleven explains that his heart safely trusts her. Which can be interpreted that his innermost thoughts are confident in all of her actions. Her choices will not only be good for him, but he will also not lack anything because he has a wise and trustworthy wife.

My notes from Proverbs 31:11

Verse eleven of Proverbs 31 speaks so loudly to me. This picture of a husband who trusts in his wife with his innermost being is so beautiful. This marriage is based on trust. 

Trust is earned 

Trust only happens when both spouses in the marriage are completely committed to the covenant they have entered. The wife does good towards her husband by her actions, by her choices, and I imagine by her words. She is an honorable woman, giving no reason for her husband to think otherwise. Her husband in return does the same, he honors her by his actions, choices, and words. 

Be authentic

It’s important to speak kind words towards our spouses, but our actions on a daily basis, when life is chaotic and hard, are the most important. Those actions are speaking loudly. We tell our children, it’s important to be authentic and maintain good character. The choices you make behind closed doors, when you think no one is watching, exposes who you really are. The proverbs 31 woman is trusted by her husband entirely, there is no doubt in his mind that she is set to do good to him. 

I want to be like her

I desire to be the kind of woman who is trusted by her husband, like the proverbs 31 woman. Who wouldn’t want that kind of bond? It takes lasting commitment to the marriage covenant. I take my choices seriously day by day. From the time I wake up, I make choices to serve my husband out of love. I try my best to always speak kindly to him. When it comes to our life we are on the same team.

Speak life

I want to be his number one cheerleader and confidant. Men don’t feel confident when the woman who is supposed to help him, always has a critical spirit. If I made him feel small, he wouldn’t be as excited when I meet him at the door when he comes home. I don’t think he would desire to talk to me about his day. I love the connection we have. He is my best friend!

Embrace truth

Choosing kindness doesn’t mean being dishonest and unforthcoming with your husband. We wouldn’t be much of a helpmate if we were walking on eggshells, only saying what we think he wants to hear. Sometimes you will have to be a mirror for your husband and tell him a hard truth. It’s the only way he can be aware of an issue and have the opportunity to make a change towards the better. But I try to stick with the idea that our words should always be with grace, seasoned with salt, so that we know how to answer everyone. True love speaks the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.

Colossians 4:6

Set apart for my husband

Another way I honor my husband and earn his trust with my actions is, by the way, I present myself, now and even before we were married. I like to think that being an honorable woman also embodies a sense of timeless elegance.

I choose to dress modestly but in a way that wows my husband and still have older women compliment me on how beautiful they think I am. That’s a compliment I never knew could be so powerful. I am very thankful for the godly women in my life and take great care to remember their example and what to aspire towards. My husband’s attention and compliments from women I respect are more valuable than someone’s attention who is not my husband.

To be clear, I don’t always dress up, however, I am intentional in my motives when getting dressed. At the moment I am wearing leggings and my husband’s hoodie. My motive is to do a quick workout and be comfortable! If I am going somewhere special, my motive is to look and feel my best while respecting the fact that I am my husband’s and he is mine! I don’t want to share all of myself with everyone else.

Avoid money problems

When it comes to finances, my husband and I discuss every big decision together. We are always on the same page. That way if we face financial issues, we work as a team to solve them. By being open and honest when it comes to money, we can trust each other completely. Doing finances this way removes any place for arguments over money issues. 

Parenting together

We earn each other’s trust by being on the same team when it comes to parenting. We have conversations about what we expect, what the rules are, how we want to handle discipline. That way no matter who the children are with they don’t feel like they can play one parent against another. Our kids know that we are a team. While it may not work out for them to get their way, in the big picture they feel safe knowing mom and dad are on the same side. 

Joy comes from God

As a Christian wife and mother, my choices and motivations play a huge roll in my husband’s happiness. What is that saying? 

“Happy wife, happy life!”  

Some people take that as the wife should always get what she wants no matter what. I believe, our joy should come from the Lord!

When we make God our first love and pursue Him with all of our heart, then our motives towards others will fall into place. God not only directs our paths and gives us purpose, but He also gives us the ability to love and respect our husbands in a way that we never could naturally. 

When my intentions are to bless my husband and bless my family, then my actions reflect that. My husband sees those actions and feels respected and valued. In return his heart safely trusts me and he responds to me in the most loving and vulnerable way a man can respond. 

When I feel loved it motivates me to show him more love and respect. It’s a never-ending cycle that just keeps giving in marriage. 

If one or both of us were to have selfish ambitions and only focus on making our own life great and achieving our own dreams despite what it may do to the other person, things inevitably will fall apart. Usually, it ends in both people being miserable and no one truly achieving what they really want. The respect is gone, there are no loving actions. 

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Trust is an integral part of love.

Simple Truths From Proverbs 31:11

1. A virtuous wife is trusted by her husband. And vice versa.
2. Trust is earned over time by consistent choices.
3. It takes honorable actions by both husband and wife to build trust and thrive in marriage.
4. There is absolutely no room for selfish ambitions in marriage.
5. Being loving also includes being truthful. Sometimes the truth may be uncomfortable.
6. Our words should be filled with grace, especially towards our spouse.
7. Modesty allows a woman’s true beauty to be expressed. 
8. You are beautiful and precious and worthy of truly being loved.

Questions to Ponder from Proverbs 31:11:

1. Take a moment to think about your own choices and actions in your marriage, how do you think you are doing well?
2. What actions could be improved?
3. Think about the things you respect about your husband and list them. 
4. Are there things you wish were different?

Thank you, for meeting me here, AT FORESTS EDGE. I hope this in-depth women’s bible study of Proverbs 31:11 is a blessing to you. 

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Raeanna